Friday, September 4, 2009

It Is Not Easy To Forgive

There are people who have said
or done things that have caused
others great pain or humiliation.
And some are constantly reminded
of those things.

It is not easy to forgive someone
who has caused us pain.

“Not to forgive is to be imprisoned
by the past…” “Forgiveness frees the
forgiver.” -Lance Morrow
“...whenever you stand praying,
if you have anything against anyone,
forgive him, that your Father in heaven
may also forgive you your trespasses.
But if you do not forgive, neither will your
Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.”
Mark 11:25 (NKJV)
"We must develop and maintain the capacity
to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to
forgive is devoid of the power to love. There
is some good in the worst of us and some
evil in the best of us. When we discover this,
we are less prone to hate our enemies."
-Martin Luther King, Jr.


  1. Forgiveness is a choice. Your heart will eventually catch up with your head. After I forgave the person who was responsible for my sisters death 20 years ago, it has been easy to forgive everyone else.
    Blessings and prayers, andrea

  2. Andrea,
    I am so sorry to hear that.
    And yes, "Your heart will
    eventually catch up with your
    head." So true.

    Blessings and prayers to you


  3. This was very hard for me most of my life because of my upbringing and I learned over my adult life through many experiences. It is a bit of a release to me. you won't have any bitterness held inside.

  4. Hi Sheliza,
    Thanks for the feedback.
    Forgiving is hard. But like
    you said, "it is a bit of a

  5. Anita, I needed to hear this today. It's funny how you can intellectually know and believe something, but when you get your feelings hurt, it's easy to let the pain of it take over...Thank you, for reminding me not to let that happen...

    Great post~


  6. Hi Annie,
    So true..."it's easy to let the
    pain of it take over..." I'm glad
    you like this post. Thanks for
    the feedback.


  7. As hard as it might be to forgive someone that did something unforgivable, the forgiveness is more for your own well being. It reminds me of something I tell my kids every time they say the word hate... "Hate is a waste of time and emotion. Hate effects you more than it effects anyone else.

  8. Hi Melissa,
    So tue, "Hate is a waste of time and emotion.
    Hate effects you more than it effects anyone

  9. You have a lovely family here! I have to say this post really struck a cord with me. Sometimes it almost feels like it costs too much to forgive someone. Maybe a bit of pride one can't afford to lose. But quite clearly, it's not true. The prison of being unforgiving is wrenching, and though it's not always the quickest thing to do, it is the right thing.

  10. Hi Angela,
    Thanks for the feedback.
    I agree, "'s not always the quickest
    thing to do, [but] it is the right thing
    to do.

  11. Thanks Anita, I enjoy your comments as a great many people could draw inspiration from it. I'll share your blog with many. I wish you continued success!

  12. Thanks Angela,
    I enjoyed reading your blog.
    I will share yours as well.
    Blessings to you, and much

  13. I am a firm believer in Forgive and Forget: The heart can forgive, it's the mind that has to forget! Blessings and Love!

  14. Christian greetings Anita!

    HOw are you? I just came back from 2 long months of idleness and is now trying to check what I've missed in this bloggers world. I hope to hearing from you soon.

    God bless you always and take care!


  15. Thanks for writing this post. I've just come across a state of forgiving those who hurt me. To forgive is easy, but it's hard to forget the pain that is killing you within your chest. *sigh*

    Love to read more from you.

  16. Forgiving is also a process. People often forget that part and that it includes going through the pain so that they truly know what they are forgiving the person for. I think about Jesus on the Cross and that he felt the pain of every sin for us. Hope I wasn't too preachy.



  17. Forgiving is not an easy thing. However eveyday can be a hard painful day. I have learned through humiliation and threat. Thay are people outhere who capable to say horrible things infront and behind your back. I have also learned that my own parents have disowned me just because I am not a Man. Everyday I have to live with sadness. I finally have to rescue myself from a situation that no one can help me feel at pieace but myself. I forgive those people who have have made me sleepless at night. I forgive my parents who dumped me, I forgive my brother who are so greedy, I forgive my sister who will never visit me unless I pay for everything. I am not goingto breat myself over things I can't control. My life is hard enough and for the first time in my life I finally find piece. My heart is happy again.


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